I Am Here

To Stay With You

Warm Your Bones, Unveil Soul

What makes a woman's message truly magnetic. Her work in the world drawing people in, naturally, organically. Never forced, never pushed. Her fragrance lingers. Her voice whispers in you, still. You want more of her. She knows something you've been trying to remember all your life. You want to encode her into your DNA.

In experiencing women all my life - as a student, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a teacher, a mentor, a doctor, a writer, a designer, a photographer, a mother - women all over the globe, women from all walks of life, I have teased out what has time and time again truly drawn me in - what has truly been magnetic to me.

In teasing out the key elements of their magnetic presence, I have made a conscious effort to stay away from a narcissistic angle on affinity. What that means is that - anytime I felt attracted to a message or a person because they affirmed my version of reality or bias - I carefully extracted that piece out. Narcissistic love - or magnetism, for that matter - is all about loving THE WAY WE are loved, not loving the other in and of themselves. What I focused more on in this process is how I was trascended beyond any of my biases, a love for the magnetic being herself, a love for the magnetic process itself. Here are a few of my reflections on what allows a woman to hold magnetic presence.

An Emptiness

Magnetism begins from a point zero. The woman is full yet completely empty. Her chalice has lifetimes of strength, yet inside, it is completely empty at a moment's notice. She continuously empties herself of ancient battle gear and resistance. And she is able to flush empty instantaneously, to create powerful space for others and for you. She is transparent and open. Empty and silent - even when she speaks.

A Presence

Magnetism begins in the now. The woman is here, in the moment, fully - you just feel it. Her attention holds a relaxed focus. Her presence, fully present. Not forced, it just is that way organically. She holds space, when space needs to be held. She leans in when doors need to open, to shine a light on any blind spots that are blinding. She responds swiftly to the calling of the human heart. Always, with ease.

A Warmth

Magnetism is a heart thing, no doubt. The woman is in full love frequency. Not a hello kitty 'I love you all' kind of light love. This is a deep care for herself and for being here with you, by you, for you. Her warmth is born of Kensho - hard-earned experience & Satori - a divine inspiration. It is a lucid love that embraces the entire beauty, power, humor and catastrophe of being. Her warmth envelops you, yet incapable of smothering anyone.

A Knowing

Magnetism is grounded in a powerful knowing. The woman has excavated herself, doubt is now absent. You can tell she just knows, she knows a lot and has access to even more at a moment's notice metaphysically, intuitively. Her power is grounded in her sacrum, in her Hara, in her deepest center. She speaks depth, humility with an ever present conviction that makes multidimensional sense. She speaks to the core of any being, essentially.

A Sacredness

Magnetism is a cosmic force. The woman is shamanic, mystical, cosmic, without ever speaking any of those words. She is saint-like even if she curses. She is sacred even if she falls. She embodies the entire spectrum of your being within her, yet never owning any of it, always real with this. You feel ONE with this woman. You dissolve, disarm, breathe easier - around her. You are - as his Holiness The Dalai Lama puts it - in the company of the holy, in a sense.

A Remembrance

Magnetism is a call home. The woman opens doors to all that you deeply know, one by one. Every word she speaks, every silence she offers, each an invisible Key to back to You. She unveils your soul at every turn. You remember who you are meant to live, your heart hurts a touch, a tear drops secretly when she drop a gentle bomb or two. You know she is a portal to all you already know. You remember You, being around her. And once you remember, she lets you go, remains forever your cosmic family.

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